#The real heroes

#THE REAL HEROES

The recent attack on a convoy of the Central Reserve Police Force(CRPF) on the Jammu-Srinagar Highway has shaken the country.Both public and private spaces were seen wearing a sense of gloom as the bodies of 40 CRPF jawans who lost their lives in the attack reached their families.

                          We also lost our two majors,Major Vibhuti Singh Dhoundiyal and Major Chitresh Bisht.These losses are irreparable.Not only their families are going through this most difficult phase of their lives but the whole nation.Till date I have not been able to forget the crying faces of the families.
I have quoted below a heart touching answer given by a martyr's mother when she was asked by a journalist to describe the darkest day of her life....and is she a proud mother or not.
                    She answered,
                             "I am very proud of my son,he was a brave man.
I believe that I must have done something really good in the past that god give me a chance to give birth to such a noble and selfless man.For him,his nation our Bharat mata was always the priority.The day when I got this news(of his son's death) I was broken,I was not able to accept that I have lost my 30 year old beloved and my only son,he was my life,he was my jaan,that day I not only lost my son I lost everything.....That day was nothing different I was following my regular routine,I remember, I was preparing breakfast and suddenly my husband's phone rang.From my kitchen only, I asked 3-4 times that who is there?Whose is there on the phone ?as I was eagerly waiting for my son's call.He didn't answer....Then I came out and again asked him the same thing.....his face was blank,he was not able to speak out even a single word.I understood that there is some bad news....I kept on asking,after five minutes he answered,he said "Our son is coming back".I sighed and after that I said that it's not possible last week when we(her son) had a talk he said that he will return in April and it's March.Then he(husband) said "No,he his coming back today only,he will be back in a coffin,he will be back wrapped up in our national flag".I was shattered after listening this.In the evening when he came back....he was sleeping so peacefully in the coffin with the brightest smile on his face.I was literally dying to hear his voice....I was dying to hear "MAA" from him.He was a very obedient child,he used to do everything, no matter what I asked him to do.But,that day when I asked him to wake up he disobeyed me for the first time in his life.He didn't wake up.I kept on crying but he didn't reply,and then I realised that he was in a very very deep sleep".
 
                                            Asking about the importance of indian army in india is like asking the importance of heart in the human body.It would  not be wrong to say that there would be no India without Indian army.It is the backbone of the country.It is also one of the few institutions left in the country which could be considered completely neutral and reliable.If anything goes really wrong in the country,we look at the army for solutions,be it riot control,counter insurgency,fighting terrorism,fighting Naxalites and even getting medals in international sporting events.
If u pick a person randomly and ask him birthdays of film stars,politicians,sport persons etc.There is a good chance that he/she will be able to answer quite a few but if you ask him/her that,"when and why is Indian army day celebrated"?There is a good chance he/she will have no answer.The problem is that we have taken so many things for granted.One amongst them is freedom/security.We have taken for granted that someone is always deployed to guard our borders while we sleep in our cosy homes or their will be someone to take the bullets of enemy and terrorists for us.
                            "Mil jaate hain kuch desh premi,jinhe marne se kuch farq nahi padta".I remember this dialogue from the film Baby,that does full justice to describe our soldiers in the army.The Indian Army.With so many stories and instances that prove the intrepidity of the brave soldiers.We as citizens should salute and revere them.Just mere words with right adjectives can never do full justice as we can never thank them for what they do for us,but we can at least take a moment and remember these brave hearts and their contribution to the countries tranquility,

                       A big "SALUTE" to the indian soldiers and to their families........   

           Now,as you have read this i just have one question for you all 

                                      "HOW'S THE JOSH?".......

                            

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#BODY SHAMING

 #BODY SHAMING

                         

          Most of us are potential victims of 'body shaming'-the widespread phenomenon of receiving cruel feedback when our bodies don't meet the unrealistic beauty standards of our time .We spend our time lost in self critical thoughts,despising our body and comparing ourselves unfavorably to others.

         We don't realize, that the body that we have,is an amazing and beautiful thing.We have organs working non stop to keep us alive and to make sure we are healthy,but we don't respect that instead we shame it.As a society we have a certain set of ridiculous ideals about what men and women are supposed to look like.Few people realize just how ridiculous and unrealistic these ideals are.The worst thing that media does is that it tells men and women that they are not okay the way they look now in order for them to buy their beauty products,weight loss items etc.No longer body shaming is just in media,it has now gone to real people in peoples day to day lives,telling them that they are okay with the way they look.
     Body shaming:Inappropriate negative statements and attitudes toward another persons weight or size.
"too fat"
"too skinny"
"get on a diet"
"she probably starves herself"
All it takes is one negative statement to get a person thinking negatively and pushing them  towards a dark hole of self-hatred.Whether it was a joke,whether it was said by a loved one,the root of self-hatred is an external environment.We have all heard it before.The Aunt at the family gathering"You're looking a tad bit plum,dear".The seemingly joking friend"You're so skinny,if I blew at you you'd probably fly away".Nobody recognizes how these little comments here and there lead to a slippery slope that is detrimental towards ones self esteem.
     In a survey of adolescents in grades 9 to 12,90% of teens are unhappy with there body shape.There are various reasons why people of my age are targeted,including:we're too young to realize what's 'right or 'wrong' for our health;we're so easily influenced by celebrities and the media;we overthink about the other people's judgments about us and many of us don't even understand what's incorrect in saying,"You aren't fat,you are beautiful."
Stop fat shaming,skinny shaming,skinny-fat shaming and athletically built shaming
because it is not okay.Everyone has a different type of a body,everyone should be allowed to view and love themselves without having to hear persuasive and dangerous opinion of others.
                           I know that people are always going to have their opinion
about how somebody looks but that doesn't mean they have to tell that person,especially if it is negative.Just let that person do their thing,let them be happy with who they are and the body they are born with.It doesn't effect you,so don't let what you think affect them.
                    LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE AND LET OTHERS DO THE SAME.
Always remember no two bodies are the same.......Jut be happy and accept yourself......Every morning when you wake up,firstly,go up to the mirror and appreciate yourself......appreciate your body,pamper yourself.Every time when you look yourself into the mirror just say to yourself that 'You are the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life'.
Don't let anyone's saying affect you.Love yourself and BE SHAMELESS......
#BE SHAMELESS NOW,ENJOY THIS GUYS.....

         

# WOMEN OBJECTIFICATION

#WOMEN OBJECTIFICATION 
                              (Part-1)

                The opposition to the objectification of women is not new.From time immemorial people have been debating about it.Objectification is known to be those portrayals of women in ways and contexts which suggest that women are objects to be looked at,ogled,even touched or used.From ancient scriptures,a revolted Sita(from the epic Ramayana) to a modern day Delhi gang rape victim,there are countless examples how women are commoditized.Below, is the true story of women objectification,which will make us realize the importance and the liberty  we have of saying "NO".......
                                                     Have you ever wondered what would happen if you left your fate completely in the hands of strangers? What if you lost your ability to decide for yourself, and even worse, what if you lost your ability to say “no” altogether? To a greater or lesser degree, many of us do this every day without realizing. We care so much more what strangers think that we tend to be more courteous, caring and polite to people we barely know, than we are to the people we claim to love. We care so much about strangers that we change the way we talk and dress just so they won’t judge us. We let strangers tell us what we can and can’t do, what we’re capable of achieving, and worst of all, we do it without batting an eye. But what if we took this example to it’s ultimate extreme?

In 1979 Marina Abramovic, an as yet unknown performance artist living in Soviet Russia, created one of the most controversial, fascinating, and dangerous performance pieces in art history. She called it Rhythm 0, and it was as much a work of daring contemporary art as it was a massive social experiment that pulled the veil on human nature, and laid bare the consequences of leaving ourselves, our bodies and our lives in the hands of strangers ..........It was 40 years ago and it haunts me.

  For six long hours,performance artist Marina Abramovic put her life and body completely in the hands of strangers,turning herself into an object to be used as one wished.She also placed many different items and materials on a table,left to the choice of those who came to see the show.At this table there ware all kinds of random items ranging from flowers to chocalate brownies,chains to knives.There was even a bullet and gun on the table.So,the visitors had the chance to choose between good and bad.All the visitors could use these objects as they wanted.     
                                           During this time she agreed to remain completely passive until the experiment was over.For the audience, there was no immediate consequences. What do you think happened?.....WAIT,I will tell you.                                     
“In the beginning the public was really very much playing with me,” remembers the artist. They were gentle, placing a rose in her hand, kissing her and feeding her cake. But then, “it became more and more wild” as the public became increasingly aggressive. “It was 6 hours of real horror,” says Abramovic solemnly, “They would cut my clothes, they would cut me with a knife close to my neck, drink my blood and put a plaster over the wound. They would carry me around half naked put me on the table and stab the knife between my legs into the wood.”as quoted by the artist.
   One person in the crowd took the gun and put it on women's forehead .Then he placed it to the women's hand in a way that would point to her neck.Some of them began writing on the woman's forehead with pens.After that,harassment began.Some were squeezing here ,some were kissing
her,some were spitting on her,the crowd left her naked but they were not satisfied!
They shed her blood many times.Then one lady noticed her tears and went up to her and wiped the tears which encouraged others to do the same.......Moral:ONE LADY TOOK THE RIGHT STEP,WHICH ENCOURAGED OTHERS TO DO SO.......SO,DON'T THINK"WHAT COULD HAPPEN FROM MY SIMPLE ACTION?"
But after the six hours was up, the moment Abramovic went from passive object to active agent again, the audience was horrified to remember that they had been dealing with a human being all along. They could not confront the traces of torture they left on her body, they could not face their own horrific actions. As she walked towards them dripping with blood and tears, they all ran away from her.
            Obviously,I am no eyewitness,I am narrating it from the various sources I read.And,the event is quite famous......
                                                 I choose to write on this topic because,I wanted to tell you that this society considers women as a mere object.If the point of Rhythm 0 was to hold up a mirror to the darker corners of human nature, then the performance piece was a huge success. Not only did it reveal the true price of passivity, it hinted at what submissive women might really be up against.
                                                             TO BE CONTINUED..........

#Depression

#DEPRESSION

                 The term DEPRESSION is very common to hear ,nowadays.We take the case  of depression very lightly.We think that it's quite normal, if anyone is suffering from it and there is no need to visit a psychiatrist or a counselor and generally our words of advice are that give some time to yourself and try to be happy.We don't realize with what pain and pressure they are going through,we don't understand that being happy in a situation when you are not happy at all is very very tough.Depression is like any other disease which needs proper and timely treatment.Most people are affected by depression in their lives either directly or indirectly through a friend or a family member.Confusion about depression is commonplace,e.g. with regard to what depression exactly is and what makes it different from just feeling down.As a teenager you have a bit more scope to be the young and glamorous stereotype,permeated in a Lana Del Ray lucid dream.Depression is a severe disorder,and one that can often go undetected in some people's lives because it can creep upon you.Depression doesn't need to strike all at once;it can be gradual and nearly unnoticeable withdrawal from your active life and enjoyment of living.                                                                                                                                                               The problem with depression is that you know you'll be OK but you still feel awful,you know people love you,but it doesn't fell like they do,you know that doing something will make you feel better,but you just don't know how to,you want to be well,but you just can't seem to get there.People suffering with depression start feeling that they are not strong any more but they are wrong,they forget that strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us but those who win battles we know nothing about.I totally agree that this world is full of monsters with friendly faces but also we can't deny the fact that in this world there also exist angels who are full of stars.I know it's very hard,to stay strong for everyone around you,with a pasted on smile that quickly goes away when you are alone.I know it's tough trying to kill something that's inside,and eats you alive and there's noting you can do about it.No matter how hard you try ,it just doesn't go away.But,you should also remember that you can't start the next chapter of your life if they keep re-reading the last one.So stop overthinking and take time to do what makes your soul happy.Take a deep breath,it's just a bad day not a bad life.Some years back, I read a magazine in which a question was asked that what is the bravest thing you have ever done ......there were many answers to that question but the answer that left me teary eyed was by a boy.He answered"THE BRAVEST THING I EVER DID WAS CONTINUING MY LIFE WHEN I WANTED TO DIE".At that time,this statement helped me to understand the pain and feelings that the people suffering with depression go through.
                                                             
                                                Having anxiety and depression is like being scared and tired at the same time.It's the fear of failure,but no urge to be productive.It's wanting friends,but hate socializing.It's wanting to be alone,but not wanting to be lonely.It's caring about everything,then caring about nothing.It's feeling everything at once....then feeling paralyzingly numb.People suffering with depression needs proper care and support.It's my request to all of you be supportive,try to be more understanding and supporting towards the people who are suffering with it and help them to fight with it.Don't let them feel ashamed of themselves and tell them "It's OK to feel this way".HELP THEM IN ANY WAY YOU CAN.....AND SUPPORT THE MOVEMENT #NOT ASHAMED.Click here and listen to Deepika Padukone's story of dealing with depression and if you feel the same,don't worry at all, share it with your family or anyone on whom you trust more than yourself and believe me after recovering from it, you will feel way more stronger and happy.
                                                     #LOVE YOUR ZINDAGI

#BE YOURSELF

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment". These are the well-spoken words of Ralph Waldo Emerson.

           Everyone(our friends, relatives or the so-called society) always tells us that "JUST BE YOURSELF". But, when we try to be ourselves or do something out of the league, the first one to stop us from that will be our relatives and friends, who call themselves our "well-wishers".I ask, that what kind of good wishes are they, instead of supporting and encouraging us they all try to demotivate us by laughing or saying that'you can't do it'.Guys just tell me, who are they to tell us that, we can do it or not.They have no right to take decisions of our life.Just For example,if you say that u want to be a model or an actor or an athlete they say you can't do it. Arrey why can't we do it,it's our life,it's totally our decision.We know our inner capabilities better, not they.So stop listening to them and have a faith in you....just be yourself.

                                                                               
              All of you might be, at least once have been mocked at by your friends,because of the way you walk,the way you dress or because of a mark on your face ,or the worst of all your choices.
              I want to share one of my experiences  here,two years back.....one of my friend made fun of the way i look ,that statement brought down my self confidence to such a low level that i started spending hours in front of the mirror . But,one day something clicked in my mind that made me question to myself .....that why do i need to look like others to be accepted by them.Won't the world be a boring place if everyone looked and acted the same way.I wasted a year trying to copy others.Altogether forgetting about my own identity ,all these things that happened with me had a great impact on me.I realized that some where deep in my heart i had a thought that i don't look pretty like other girls.She some how found that weakness of mine and started to demotivate me.Realizing,all my mistakes, i have now started to discover myself .I have started to take out some me time.I believe that now i m much happier than before,i am more confident and i believe very soon that time will come when i will be able to say that"main khud ki favorite hoon". 
          
              AT last i would like to say that start visualizing yourself ,how you want to be.No one  in this world has the right to change you or comment on you or make fun of the decisions that  you have made for your life .Be strong,be confident and most importantly love yourself .It's high time now come out in open, take your stand ,fight for yourself.Don't shut yourself in a room of others opinion.There is no need to sacrifice your identity for others.Always remember that, you are not a copy ,you are original........


                                                             SO,
                                                  BE YOURSELF & BELIEVE IN YOURSELF