#BODY SHAMING

 #BODY SHAMING

                         

          Most of us are potential victims of 'body shaming'-the widespread phenomenon of receiving cruel feedback when our bodies don't meet the unrealistic beauty standards of our time .We spend our time lost in self critical thoughts,despising our body and comparing ourselves unfavorably to others.

         We don't realize, that the body that we have,is an amazing and beautiful thing.We have organs working non stop to keep us alive and to make sure we are healthy,but we don't respect that instead we shame it.As a society we have a certain set of ridiculous ideals about what men and women are supposed to look like.Few people realize just how ridiculous and unrealistic these ideals are.The worst thing that media does is that it tells men and women that they are not okay the way they look now in order for them to buy their beauty products,weight loss items etc.No longer body shaming is just in media,it has now gone to real people in peoples day to day lives,telling them that they are okay with the way they look.
     Body shaming:Inappropriate negative statements and attitudes toward another persons weight or size.
"too fat"
"too skinny"
"get on a diet"
"she probably starves herself"
All it takes is one negative statement to get a person thinking negatively and pushing them  towards a dark hole of self-hatred.Whether it was a joke,whether it was said by a loved one,the root of self-hatred is an external environment.We have all heard it before.The Aunt at the family gathering"You're looking a tad bit plum,dear".The seemingly joking friend"You're so skinny,if I blew at you you'd probably fly away".Nobody recognizes how these little comments here and there lead to a slippery slope that is detrimental towards ones self esteem.
     In a survey of adolescents in grades 9 to 12,90% of teens are unhappy with there body shape.There are various reasons why people of my age are targeted,including:we're too young to realize what's 'right or 'wrong' for our health;we're so easily influenced by celebrities and the media;we overthink about the other people's judgments about us and many of us don't even understand what's incorrect in saying,"You aren't fat,you are beautiful."
Stop fat shaming,skinny shaming,skinny-fat shaming and athletically built shaming
because it is not okay.Everyone has a different type of a body,everyone should be allowed to view and love themselves without having to hear persuasive and dangerous opinion of others.
                           I know that people are always going to have their opinion
about how somebody looks but that doesn't mean they have to tell that person,especially if it is negative.Just let that person do their thing,let them be happy with who they are and the body they are born with.It doesn't effect you,so don't let what you think affect them.
                    LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE AND LET OTHERS DO THE SAME.
Always remember no two bodies are the same.......Jut be happy and accept yourself......Every morning when you wake up,firstly,go up to the mirror and appreciate yourself......appreciate your body,pamper yourself.Every time when you look yourself into the mirror just say to yourself that 'You are the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life'.
Don't let anyone's saying affect you.Love yourself and BE SHAMELESS......
#BE SHAMELESS NOW,ENJOY THIS GUYS.....

         

# WOMEN OBJECTIFICATION

#WOMEN OBJECTIFICATION 
                              (Part-1)

                The opposition to the objectification of women is not new.From time immemorial people have been debating about it.Objectification is known to be those portrayals of women in ways and contexts which suggest that women are objects to be looked at,ogled,even touched or used.From ancient scriptures,a revolted Sita(from the epic Ramayana) to a modern day Delhi gang rape victim,there are countless examples how women are commoditized.Below, is the true story of women objectification,which will make us realize the importance and the liberty  we have of saying "NO".......
                                                     Have you ever wondered what would happen if you left your fate completely in the hands of strangers? What if you lost your ability to decide for yourself, and even worse, what if you lost your ability to say “no” altogether? To a greater or lesser degree, many of us do this every day without realizing. We care so much more what strangers think that we tend to be more courteous, caring and polite to people we barely know, than we are to the people we claim to love. We care so much about strangers that we change the way we talk and dress just so they won’t judge us. We let strangers tell us what we can and can’t do, what we’re capable of achieving, and worst of all, we do it without batting an eye. But what if we took this example to it’s ultimate extreme?

In 1979 Marina Abramovic, an as yet unknown performance artist living in Soviet Russia, created one of the most controversial, fascinating, and dangerous performance pieces in art history. She called it Rhythm 0, and it was as much a work of daring contemporary art as it was a massive social experiment that pulled the veil on human nature, and laid bare the consequences of leaving ourselves, our bodies and our lives in the hands of strangers ..........It was 40 years ago and it haunts me.

  For six long hours,performance artist Marina Abramovic put her life and body completely in the hands of strangers,turning herself into an object to be used as one wished.She also placed many different items and materials on a table,left to the choice of those who came to see the show.At this table there ware all kinds of random items ranging from flowers to chocalate brownies,chains to knives.There was even a bullet and gun on the table.So,the visitors had the chance to choose between good and bad.All the visitors could use these objects as they wanted.     
                                           During this time she agreed to remain completely passive until the experiment was over.For the audience, there was no immediate consequences. What do you think happened?.....WAIT,I will tell you.                                     
“In the beginning the public was really very much playing with me,” remembers the artist. They were gentle, placing a rose in her hand, kissing her and feeding her cake. But then, “it became more and more wild” as the public became increasingly aggressive. “It was 6 hours of real horror,” says Abramovic solemnly, “They would cut my clothes, they would cut me with a knife close to my neck, drink my blood and put a plaster over the wound. They would carry me around half naked put me on the table and stab the knife between my legs into the wood.”as quoted by the artist.
   One person in the crowd took the gun and put it on women's forehead .Then he placed it to the women's hand in a way that would point to her neck.Some of them began writing on the woman's forehead with pens.After that,harassment began.Some were squeezing here ,some were kissing
her,some were spitting on her,the crowd left her naked but they were not satisfied!
They shed her blood many times.Then one lady noticed her tears and went up to her and wiped the tears which encouraged others to do the same.......Moral:ONE LADY TOOK THE RIGHT STEP,WHICH ENCOURAGED OTHERS TO DO SO.......SO,DON'T THINK"WHAT COULD HAPPEN FROM MY SIMPLE ACTION?"
But after the six hours was up, the moment Abramovic went from passive object to active agent again, the audience was horrified to remember that they had been dealing with a human being all along. They could not confront the traces of torture they left on her body, they could not face their own horrific actions. As she walked towards them dripping with blood and tears, they all ran away from her.
            Obviously,I am no eyewitness,I am narrating it from the various sources I read.And,the event is quite famous......
                                                 I choose to write on this topic because,I wanted to tell you that this society considers women as a mere object.If the point of Rhythm 0 was to hold up a mirror to the darker corners of human nature, then the performance piece was a huge success. Not only did it reveal the true price of passivity, it hinted at what submissive women might really be up against.
                                                             TO BE CONTINUED..........